The Illness of Settling

The necessity of giving what we expect to receive in life became apparent to me yet again after a member of my extended family shared the following story with me.

She was once in a relationship that caused disapproval from various sides. At first, they didn’t care but eventually allowed themselves to, failing to realize that those who refuse to support you are those that don’t accept you fully. They hadn’t paid much attention to the disapproval at first but eventually gave in, trying to make everyone else happy instead of only paying attention to each other. The opinions of the world infiltrated every aspect of their relationship, causing a riff between them. Dealing with these problems continued to be postponed until one of them decided the relationship was over and left.

I was baffled at the course of this tale, wondering why so many still fail to understand that listening to opinions of the world is the easiest (and often, the most effective) way to make their lives utterly unhappy.

Here is the Law of Attraction explanation for this principle – making a life changing decision with the intention of making others happy, pleased or satisfied, thinking it’s “the right thing to do” will only lead to having to do more of the same. You will continue to comply and feel that you should “do the right thing,” waiting for the day things change (which will only lead to more waiting). After sacrificing your true happiness, you would suddenly end up sacrificing all your happiness. Along the way, you will have lost all motivation to even strive for future happiness, thinking you have missed the boat. And what will your life look like? You will be living it for others instead of yourself until the feeling of emptiness renders you incapable of contributing to anyone or anything. You will simply be wondering why you hadn’t made the choices you truly wished to make but were too afraid to upset others. Then, you will resent yourself as well as those you allowed to dictate the course of your life, realizing you’d given your freedom away (to them).

You must give what you wish to receive and if you put yourself second while allowing others to dictate the way you live your life, no one else will put you first. Worst of all, you will be the only one to blame.

Even worse, you know how you would feel if you saw another doing this to their own life. You would mock them, feel sorry for them and never be able to respect them.

Human beings tend to seek permanent security in external factors of the world, failing to understand that this sense of endless security is somewhere inside of them. All it takes to bring this sense of security into every orifice of one’s life is intention.

To bring this intention to the surface, think about what it is that truly gives you a sense of security in life. On the other hand, what does settling for something you don’t truly want give you? A feeling of having absolutely nothing. You may not agree with me now but if you allow yourself to live like this, you will agree someday.

In order to attract an amazing person, you have to be an amazing person. This is why the Law of Attraction is all about you. Being a person who settles will bring even more of the same, more to have to settle for – is that what you want?

In order to attract the person you want, you have to be the person you wish to be yourself, otherwise you will never feel deserving of being with them. The way to start being the person you wish to be starts with full self-acceptance, moving into changing the traits you dislike about yourself in the most painless way possible.

Accepting yourself fully means accepting yourself regardless of where you are in life or what you have. If you don’t, no one else will.

What kind of person do you wish to be? Do you accept yourself fully? You cannot make the Law of Attraction work if you avoid examining yourself while focusing on everyone else. Settling in order to make someone else happy is one of the easiest ways to avoid taking a look within.

You have the right to justify these ideas any way you wish, thinking you absolutely must settle in one way or another. However, what you feel is what you are going to attract.

The choice is yours.


  1. Hello! Omg, your posts are are getting better each day!!

    I have a question: Can we attract some specific event? Like I’m going to travel with the specific person that I’m attracting a relationship with and I would like something significant to happen. Is that okay or I’m getting on the Universe’s way??

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    1. I think so and at the end of your manifestation add “or better”. By adding that key phrase you give the universe back its freedom to create that event or better. If it’s better you wouldn’t miss your original intention, right?

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      1. I agree with you, it only adds more possibilities for greatness 🙂 And your original intention is still present.


    2. That’s OK, you can manifest specific events but also pay attention to the intentions behind them. If you are attracting an event just so you would manifest a relationship from it, that would mean getting in the way of the Universe’s plan. However, if you only are attracting this trip because it would make you happy, go for it! And thank you so much for your lovely words 😀


      1. Tks!!
        Yeah, the trip is already happened next weekend, I would like to something happened during the trip. So, I can ask, let go, and let the Universe gives it to me or something better?
        I think I understood. 🙂


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