Your Reactions = Your Awareness

12 thoughts on “Your Reactions = Your Awareness”

  1. Hi, First I just want to say that I love your blog and thank you for updating so often. The only suggestion would be to maybe change the background from being dark? It looks cool, but makes it a little harder on the eyes when you’re reading the amazing posts.

    Something you said here has really been passing through my mind a lot lately “Why do you feel incapable of manifesting your dream life? Are you sure you want it?”. I have been in a situation/cycle for the past 8 years with a man. We started dating casually when we met and although I wanted something more serious, he never really committed, until he broke it off fully. After that, I started reading about the law of attraction with regards to relationships, and attracted him back in my life multiple times. The only problem was that it was never to the level that I wanted (an actual committed and warm relationship) and in the middle he has also been dating someone else now on and off for many years as well. The last time I went to visit him, it started well, until the day before I was to leave when he told me that he just couldn’t be in a relationship with me. He said he had prayed over it many times, and it just wasn’t going to happen. Right now, he is dating the other girl, and although they live in seperate countries, they travel together every couple of months.

    I haven’t really spoken to him now since April, when I last saw him. But, I still really miss him. I’ve been having a hard time really feeling that I’m capable of manifesting him back now though. I think this last time, the words stung extra bad, and I felt defeated. I can’t even pray about it anymore, its like I’ve given up even though I still care for him. The sad part is that I still feel crushed anytime I hear about him and her, but I don’t have that feeling of confidence anymore. I questioned if this means that I don’t want it anymore, but I don’t think that’s it… I think hearing rejection over and over just finally got to me. is it possible to still manifest and what do you recommend for someone in my situation to do… when he has really hurt you and you have a hard time believing?

    Thank you,

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    1. Hi! Firstly, thank you for your lovely compliments and your suggestion, I will see what I can do about the layout 🙂 When it comes to your situation, I want to start by saying that, without thinking about getting him back this very moment, you first have to restore your confidence, control of your awareness and happiness for your life. You have given too much power, if you will, to somebody else when in reality, we are talking about YOUR happiness which YOU alone feel and create. You may love this man but nobody deserves the power of influencing the happiness of another more than they themselves do. If you had a friend who allowed this in their life, who allowed someone else’s actions to basically control their confidence and happiness, would you feel that this is acceptable? Probably not.
      The fact that, together with feeling love, you feel some negativity about this man and your relationship, should serve as reminder that he is just a flawed person like anybody else and is by no means better than you. You may love him but be honest with yourself – have you been idealizing him a little? I’m not putting him down but you can’t put yourself down either. You are both real people equally worthy of love. However, you need to give love to yourself before you can give it to anyone else.
      Loving yourself and reminding yourself of every quality you have is essential for your confidence reboot. Do the things you love and pamper yourself because you deserve it. Do anything that makes you feel good. All these things will remind you of what a great person you are 🙂 Do the things that cause you to feel proud of yourself! Or, remind yourself of the reasons you already do.
      When you fill your life with love, love for yourself, for the wonderful things you do and for everything you have, you won’t miss him anymore or will miss him much less. Either way, you will feel like a new person and will have restored much of your confidence and self-worth. You can do this!

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      1. Thank you Nina. I know what you mean about loving myself regardless, and trust me, I have been trying this for the past few months, but its been difficult. I miss him and care for him, but its not even about that or relying on him for my happiness. This time, it just feels like I’ve lost the ability to really feel great again. I feel ok, and outside of love, I do have many blessings, but I can’t feel that overwhelming sense of love of life anymore… which ironically when I’ve felt that way is when I’ve attracted him without even trying.

        I’ve tried not thinking about him and just focusing on myself, and did so for the first few months after I saw him in April, but now that I’m trying to manifest my dream life and really go from feeling “ok” to feeling amazing, I’m struggling. I don’t know what to do, and I feel frustrated with myself.

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      2. Keep reminding yourself that you are valuable and of everything you already have. I bet you’ll start feeling better soon. If you keep reminding yourself, you’ll start to feel increasingly better each day.

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      3. Thank you Nina. Do you have any recommendations for improving self-love? Any particular things I can do?

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      4. My suggestions is to start by thinking of the kind of person you would love to be. The only important thing is that YOU love who you are because that’ll be all you need to feel good. Are you the person you would like to be or are there traits of yourself you wish to improve? Just remember that even if there are, you don’t have to be perfect – nobody is and you are good enough just as you are TODAY to live your dream life. Only think about what’s important to you and who YOU are happy being 🙂 If you know that you’d love yourself even more having additional or different specific traits, own them 🙂 Have fun with them but be aware that you never have to strive for perfection – just self-love and acceptance.
        If you feel that you don’t love yourself enough, think about why that is. Do you criticize yourself because you genuinely feel that you need to improve or has caring about the opinions of others prompted you to feel that way? I am asking all these questions because once you answer them to yourself, you can resolve these issues and move towards a positive self-perception.
        You might immediately realize that self-love is easy and drop all these issues in an instant. Honestly, I find self-love to be an easier quality to step into than many think, as it only involves what each individuals desires for themselves as opposed to trying to please anyone else. When you love yourself, others will, too. When you respect yourself, others will respect you. Many spend their time trying to gain respect from others instead of taking care of themselves, causing effortless respect in return. Focusing on the activities you love in life, spending time with the people you love and thinking about how much you contribute to the world with your work every day will also allow you to see how valuable you are. Focus on everything there is to appreciate about yourself now and even more will follow.

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  2. What should one do when they feel low or doubtful in regards to their manifestation. For the longest time I have been happy and it didn’t matter when it happens and I was happy without him too. But then sometimes it just hits you that you can’t see the changes. Is it something that works for everyone or am I setting myself up for a tough time by being delusional?

    I second guess on some days if it’s going to happen for me, just because it’s been so long since I put my intention out there. I had completely let go without wondering when. But this week is first time in months that I wonder, what’s going on?

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    1. Drop the worry and calmly allow for your negative thoughts to pass. It’s OK if they come up but if you calmly let them pass and feel happiness for your desire even just for a few seconds, you won’t even notice any negative thoughts soon 🙂

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