I had been entertaining thoughts of a specific manifestation recently which failed to feel like a true decision until I discussed it with one of my closest friends (the same one who met one of her personal heroes last week).
At some point this year, I realized that I held negative views about something I wanted to bring into my life due to past experiences. I strongly disliked feeling this way but was grateful for being able to recognize it and therefore, solve the issue.
Have you ever felt this way?
Sometimes, feeling this way is a bridge between one’s current circumstances and the new ones filled with all kinds of improvements.
Sometimes, one has to deal with all their negative thoughts picked up along the way in order to remind themselves of what it is they truly want, appreciate, value and who they are deep down.
Yesterday, I changed my hair color. On the way to the salon, I thought about how much I loved my current hair color. I wondered if I was starting to change my mind but then just seized the opportunity to explore my feelings and possibly learn something new about creation.
I occasionally wonder how I could possibly be in the mood for this all the time!
Soon, I concluded that my wandering/wondering mind was just an indicator of being stuck in the process. Thinking “what if” means being stuck in the process as opposed to feeling one’s desire is their reality already. I hadn’t even felt fear but simply thought about what it was I wanted.
In order to bring it into their life, one has to believe their desire is theirs already. However, this goes the opposite way than most might think. The energy moves in the direction of believing before seeing.
I used to try to make my desires a bigger deal they were at times, thinking this would make them feel like the right decision to make. Then, I realized what I was doing.
Just like I used to do, I was now making my hair color, which I already couldn’t wait to have, a bigger deal than it was.
Making one’s desire, any desire, a big deal is a negative action. A big deal creates a mismatch with your desire – we don’t think as anything we see as a permanent fixture in our lives to be “a big deal.” We think this reality is normal and was always meant for us.
We think that a big deal is connected to changing our entire lives, living a perfect reality or creating a vibration for our manifestation that doesn’t even exist yet, so to speak.
Creating a mismatch with one’s desire can easily happen when viewing it as something impossible, out of the ordinary, huge… This perception only creates the feeling of not having it yet and invites negative thoughts.
Negative thoughts are a whole other category; these thoughts evoke the feeling of one’s desire being far away, being something that requires much work or being so perfect that it’s practically unattainable.
Sometimes, energy clearing isn’t only about which negative thoughts come up. Sometimes, it’s about figuring out why they come at all. Why is nurturing the feeling of your desire being a big deal making you feel like you “have to achieve it” instead of “having it already?”
Once you start to see your desire as something normal, something you were always meant to live, you will stop postponing it. You will be able to bring it into your reality. You will see the good in your life, the Universe being on your side and suddenly, you will realize that everything is meant to be easy. You will stop making up false, negative scenarios that will never manifest. Your fear will leave you forever.
You will understand that, if you love something, you should have it.
9 responses to “The Big Deal Factor”
Once again I love your blog! So inspiring and awesome 🙂
Thank you for taking the time to write and share your experiences!
I’m not sure if you remember but I’m manifesting my ex back.
Basically I’ve been so needy, waiting to hear from her etc. all weekend she brushed me off said she needs to spend time with other people. Yesterday morning I messaged and said want to catch up for dinner and she just said no, I’m really busy this week maybe next…
I went home from work and was feeling really down and sad.
So I used EFT (which I had learnt through a very good practitioner)
I finished feeling so blissful, with so much love in my heart. Everything made me happy and I had the most peaceful evening (and I just knew my girl was mine, this crazy deep knowing…)
An hour into this feeling and I get a message from her about a BBQ our friend is trying to organsie. Then she keeps messaging me asking me to come to an event next Sunday. She sends my links to funny videos. It’s like she was a different person! And it’s all because my energy was so around me and I felt completely whole and at peace.
Today I don’t have that needy feeling and I feel pretty good (not as amazing as yesterday though)
How do I allow myself to experience that again, I’m sure you know the feeling I mean. It’s like I had some amazing shift and let go of lots of hurt and just felt so much love from my heart for everything and for my girl and not just needing and wanting as I had been.
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Thank you so, so much…and, I LOVE THIS!!!!! 😀 You did amazingly well! I love EFT and recommend it so I’m pretty sure that if you keep doing it, any limiting beliefs you may have will clear.
I completely know what you mean – I experienced someone I knew practically turning into an entirely different person once we took things to the next level and it was amazing 🙂 It happens when you evoke love in someone and feel so happy with them before you actually receive your desire. I also did it with heart energy.
I say, to feel that love, think about everything about your ex as well as your relationship that you are grateful for, including this change in her after your EFT tapping and how happily she responds to the love you have for her. Be grateful for having your relationship now, as if you’ve already received it. I’m sure you’ll reach a blissful state but also, don’t be upset if it doesn’t repeat literally today – it will soon. However, I do strongly feel that you should do another EFT session, you can do it every day without a problem!
Hi K, what EFT were you doing when you experienced this? What were you tapping to?
Well I’ve worked with a top quality practitioner for some childhood stuff so what I understood was…
I feel whatever emotion I am having and I can also tell by my thoughts.
Using yesterday as an example, I felt sad, my thoughts where along the lines of she doesn’t love me, we are never going to be together etc etc.
(Some days it might be fear, or anger etc)
So I tapped through the points sinking into the feeling of sadness and saying whatever came to mind. (There were tears too, and that is all part of releasing the negative emotion, if you’re angry for example say the words with that anger, tap and let it all out!)
Once I felt better and my negative thoughts had ceased and I felt like I was forcing thoughts rather than letting them pour out I had a minute break and some water. Then I did what they call a positive round. This is installing the good beliefs. So I said, she does love me, we will be together, we are together and happy. It’s important not to force the words but let them flow. I tend to say things which just connect with me which in the end was…’you know she loves you, man up and believe it!’ especially in the positive round because saying that stuff is how I am and makes me happy and laugh too.
I do that for a few rounds until I feel light and ready to go again.
Any questions and I’m happy to answer 🙂 I’m just speaking from my experience with EFT (which changed my life completely in other areas)
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Dear K, this sounds amazing – I have never done a positive round with EFT! On the rare occasions I used it, I would tap to get rid of the negative. However, you really emphasized a highly important aspect here – imagining what you want without forcing or resistance. I love your answer here 🙂
Dear C, I use Shalini Yamdagni’s YouTube channel for EFT, when I do. I’m very happy with it.
Thank you K!
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Thank you Nina. I’ll look at that YouTube channel 🙂
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