Do you feel like you “can have” some of your desires but others seem impossible to obtain?
This attitude presents a manifesting block and attachment to specific desires. You feel like you can’t live without those specific desires, feel unable to manifest them because they are “bigger” or “better.” You might also think, “I never get to have that.”
We’ve all felt this way about a specific desire once or twice; my solution for it lies in, guess what, confidence!
Since you already know you can live any reality you choose, it is time to stop fearing life and absolutely own your power instead!
Many struggle to deal with all the resistance manifesting love can bring, especially when it comes to a specific person.
If you want to live a specific reality, believe that you can! Stay focused until you get there without looking for ways of making it happen. The Universe will make it happen by leading you and your belief to a specific set of actions you will have to take, places to go or a change of circumstances necessary for your desire to manifest. This is how your desire will come to you. Often, you won’t even have to do any of that for your desire to manifest – it will come to you immediately.
This change in attitude will give you motivation and confidence. You can live your desired reality and if you still want it, be ready to live it! Be confident enough for it! Never idealize it but accept it instead.
Idealizing a specific reality, job, physical appearance, friendship, relationship or person can lead to profound attachment to your desire. Still, you can create an absolutely magical life with your desire in it but this magic depends on accepting your desire for what it truly is. There might still be days you are bored living it but this doesn’t have to mean you will lose it. Just allow it to be.
You will be overly attached to a specific person if you believe they are “perfect” but will feel great love for them if you believe them to be perfect just the way they are. This way, you are not idealizing them but appreciating them instead. You are allowing them to be themselves while wanting to make them happy. You want to spend time with them. You give them the freedom to be themselves while loving them.
Now, look at the specific relationship with a specific person you currently want to manifest. Do you love them for who they are or are you idealizing a made-up version of them you would like to fulfill all of your needs? A relationship exists primarily for happiness while you have to be a complete person all by yourself, without another. Do you want to share your life with that real person, with the person he or she genuinely is?
When idealizing your specific person, you are not seeing the real person. Not only are you then unable to manifest a relationship with them due to seeing them as “perfect” but believe me, they don’t want that kind of pressure put on them. Like you, they want to be loved for who they truly are.
When wanting a specific person in my life, as a friend or partner, I am “attracted” to them for their true energy. I want to know them, talk to them, learn about them, spend time with them and share adventures with them.
If you feel incomplete without a specific person in your life, you are on a low vibration and feel like you need that relationship to be happy. The downside of that is, the awareness of need attracts more need, preventing you from letting go and manifesting.
Choose a person you want to give love to. Wanting to give instead of thinking of your own needs should be the reason for choosing someone. We want to give to those who make us happy so think about who it is that makes you happy.
In order to manifest a relationship, I have to want to be in it. I must want to make a specific man happy and genuinely desire to be with him. This might take some time of knowing a man beforehand but it is worth it; if it doesn’t, I knew everything I needed to know after knowing him shortly. When I feel it, I know it. Otherwise, I enjoy life, closeness and adventures with my friends, new friends, people I wanted to meet and then did, travel, fun, relaxation, comments from my readers, work engagements and individuals I’ve had a great time working with.
Speaking of which, I have to start getting ready for tonight’s event.
Another problem of excessive attachment to specific people and relationships lies in giving your power away. You are allowing someone else to control your good mood and vibration with their actions. But why? Does this make any sense to you?
The best part is, your specific person holds this power because you allow them to! It is still your choice to feel the way you do.
By now, you know you can manifest the relationship you want. You know that you should feel confident and you are getting there. And you know that I believe in you.