Is your past and your general focus on the negative (fears, doubts, the current reality etc.) instead of the positive preventing you from manifesting? Do you try hard to manifest only to end up getting hurt over and over again? No matter how much you want to believe in your desire, do you feel incapable of letting go and saddened by feeling stuck in your current circumstances?
Even if all of this is true, you might be lost around the idea of what exactly you should do in order to finally make peace with what has been, believe in yourself and your happiness. You might be desperate to believe but don’t know how to when everything around you points to your dream missing from your life.
This is my solution. These are the steps to take in order to deal with all that excessive negative energy around your desire so that you could manifest it into your life. Right now, you might feel that you want something in particular to manifest into your life yet you feel upset with it in some way, be that your past, your general negative beliefs around the subject or your own limitations which you want to move past but feel incapable of achieving for now. Whatever it is, follow these steps to change your beliefs.
You cannot move into the happier future with negative beliefs.
1. Locate the source of your negative feelings.
Do you want to manifest a relationship but feel negatively about relationships in general, thinking they were boring, unfulfilling and ultimately doomed to come down to annoyance instead of enjoyment which is what they were meant for? Or, do you want to manifest being with someone specific yet keep focusing on their currently poor treatment of you and making you feel unwanted instead of loved?
Do you want to manifest a new job but feel that work is impossible to find or always implies working for insufficient pay and difficult people? Do you want to lose weight yet worry that you absolutely must spend an hour a day in the gym or practically starve yourself? Do you want to manifest money but fear you might not and that you will always have less money than you’d want?
Your current reality might be the only source of your negative feelings but the answer is to feel your ideal reality possible, real and something you look forward to instead of something abstract.
2. Ask yourself, “What would I be doing if I had it now?”
This is how you focus on the realness of your desire instead of your current reality.
Once you ask yourself this question, you will allow for a spontaneous visualization of your desire. You will feel as if you had it now and be able to evaluate whether or not you truly feel comfortable in it.
Sometimes, what started off as a specific desire turned into need due to not manifesting. The longer it took, the more you felt the need to make it happen, the more you missed it, the more you felt the need for it to appear and your general good mood deteriorated as a result, meaning your vibration dropped.
If your desire turned into need, it was because the worry had taken over, pushing your belief to the side. Your worry about your desire coming true, as well as yourself, took over against your positive beliefs of having your desire in your life and letting it go to manifest.
Asking yourself this question will allow you to start planning your life instead of living it without any awareness of what you might manifest.
3. Feel good about yourself and think about who you want to be!
Nurture your personal qualities which you cherish.
I personally cherish my cheerful and outgoing nature, for example. I care about my own opinion of myself and if you do the same, you will live your life wrapped in positive feelings about yourself. If you still wish to possess specific qualities, ask yourself what you would do if you had them now. Or, what would make you feel that you are the person you wish to be?
At the same time, don’t resist your current personality traits. Just focus on being the person you would love to be. You’re an amazing individual already, just as you are, but what would make you feel like an amazing individual? Believe that you are everything you wished to be.
This way, you are going to start over. You’re going to start over in manifesting, looking at your desire and your positive self-perception. You manifested the negative events in your life because you felt that they were likely to happen for you – start to believe that your desires are most likely to happen in your life!
Accept that the past is the past…and you will, as soon as you finally start looking at yourself as the person you wanted to be!
Be sure that your ideal reality truly is your ideal reality. Does the idea of living your desire make you feel comfortable? How do you feel about your desire right now? Be honest with yourself. Then, if you want to, compose and repeat an affirmation that reflects the way you want to feel living your ideal reality. Repeat that affirmation when necessary.
The way you feel about yourself and the way you feel about your desire are connected.
For your affirmation to work fast, you need to choose a vision of your ideal reality you are truly comfortable with. If you are uncomfortable with the idea of your desired reality you are imagining now, you are preventing yourself from receiving it. This is where you might have to put in some work, as deciding what exactly you want is sometimes the hardest part. Admitting your true feelings to yourself can be the hardest part.
I once thought about manifesting a relationship with someone but didn’t feel excited about it. I wasn’t sure if I wanted to be in it until I explored my feelings and discovered that my true desire was to have him in my life. I wanted us to be close friends and we became it.
If you’re wondering how to practice your new beliefs, try this. One of my best friends keeps notes of affirmations stuck to the fridge and remembers them when needed. You could keep them in your wallet or anywhere else but the point is, keeping notes of affirmations will remind you of them. You will soon adopt an affirmation as your new belief if you know that it is written down somewhere close to you.
4. Learn to understand your negative thoughts.
In order to receive your desire, you must believe it is yours simply because you asked for it. Remind yourself of this if you have forgotten it. Once you know your desire belongs to you and is going to manifest in your life, you will understand why negative thoughts mean nothing.
Your belief is one thing but random negative thoughts that come up are quite another (even when your subconscious mind tries to make you believe they mean something).
Right now, you don’t believe so you are distracted by your negative thoughts; however, once you believe, you will no longer be distracted by your negative thoughts.
You used to jump at every negative thought, fearing it was true or about to come true. But after you start to believe, you will know that your belief in your desire is real and therefore thoughts that contradict it must be false.
This is how ignoring of your negative thoughts works. If you have made a decision that your desire belongs to you already, asked for it and automatically believed it was yours; every time negative thoughts come up, you can remember that you know. This is how ignoring negative thoughts works – you’ll be able to observe them while knowing that your desire belongs to you already.
Negative thoughts may still come up but they are different from negative beliefs. Positive beliefs allow you to see that negative thoughts are false.
Overcoming your negative thoughts and making peace with everything that has been will allow you to start over. Forget everything that has been and focus on what you want because you deserve it.