Why It’s Hard to Power Through the Current Pain to Eventually Manifest

I see this example frequently in my coaching – a wonderful individual is hurt by the lack of evidence in their desire manifesting, yet the frustration in the lack of evidence perpetuates the lack of manifestation.

Why? Because Law of Attraction corresponds with our feelings about a specific desire. When we feel like it isn’t ours and are upset about it, we must receive more of it.

When we affirm that our desire is ours (because we’d decided so), believe that the Universe is making it happen and imagine living our most desired scenarios while relying on that decision and our belief instead of the current reality, we will begin to feel good about our desire. And then, we will manifest.


There is no perfect answer – we just have to choose to believe. Searching for the perfect solution only delays the manifestation, losing days of thinking positive (which would be much more productive).

Becoming the person you want to be requires thinking like that person now. If you had your desired job/relationship/home/bank account balance now, how would you look at things? Which values would you nurture? How would you feel about things around you – same as you do now, or differently? When you see things this way, positive thinking is easy and enjoyable, fulfilling its purpose of uplifting feelings and changes in your life.


Relationships are one of our favorite topics on this blog, and I believe the world needs better relationships in every way. Every relationship still begins with deciding the way you want to feel in it.

You might think this is egotistical. You might subscribe to the idea that it’s all about the other person. You might think you’d be selfish to think like this but let me ask you – what would your relationship look like if you were only fulfilling the needs of your partner and neglecting your own?

You might still be accepting that in a relationship, your needs must be fulfilled, too. You might be thinking about just making your person happy and how it would be enough. The truth is, it would only be enough for now.

As you affirm that you make your specific person the happiest they’ve ever been, and are willing to honor their needs and life, you must also think about them fulfilling your relationship requirements, guilt free. Because, why wouldn’t you deserve everything you are willing to give? You do. And you must receive it. Relationships cannot be one-sided and that’s why you must visualize having what you want from a person you respect enough to give them them the same.


Not putting enough feeling into the idea/concept/imagining/visualization of having your needs met will make you see roadblocks and cause you even more pain.

You are currently experiencing a lack of manifestation because you are neglecting your side and allowing the current reality with your person to dictate the course of your manifestation. You are giving them all the power – why do they deserve to decide on the course of the relationship and you don’t?

They say they don’t want the relationship. You however know how happy you would be together. Why do you feel guilty believing while making a conscious effort to be the best person you can be every day? Why is he/she right to decide you aren’t a match? If you believe in your desire, you are right, too. Let your positive feelings prevail. But don’t let them go just because your person doesn’t see it right now – if you happiness, positivity and confidence grow, your energy will manifest a change.

This is where confidence matters most. You are as amazing as you decide, not only as good as someone else does.


No matter how impossible it seems, give it a shot and one step at a time, visualize your person being the kind of partner you desire.

Do you remember the secret ingredient to make it easier?

Strongly deciding that you are in the kind of relationship you desire, with the person you chose.

When you decide your relationship is coming to life unstoppably, it’s easy to relish in positive feelings about its inevitable delivery. We need to reconnect with visualizing our lives while believing in magic as well as compatibility, miracles as well as desire, and creation as well as determination to achieve.



  1. Dear Nina, Thank you so much for this and your blog in general – I really appreciate the wisdom you are channeling! ❤

    I've a question: I just received a text from the love of my life (we have now been apart for almost a year and in no contact for 2 months). He texted me about some stuff he forgot to send me when he sent me back my belongings 3 months ago and is wondering whether to send them to the same address. He is also asking me how I am and to let him know in case something else comes up in my mind for him to send.

    When I let him send back all my stuff back then, I did so in order to stop communicating about that – because it was reminding me of our current state and making me feel that I was moving away from rather than moving towards him. I realized that I needed to stop resisting and let him send them in order to close the door of the old and create a new space for new positive conversations.

    And now, I’m sitting here once again, trying to not overanalyze his message and let go of doubting thoughts and bitterness (“he is just asking how I am in order to be polite” “why does he ask me about my address – he was the one sending me here from our home” “is there a hidden agenda – maybe he misses me and are using my stuff do reconnect?”etc) I try to remember that it doesn’t matter what he thinks or previously has said (that ending the relationship was the right thing for him, he doesn’t have the same feelings as I have for him, he mostly remembers the bad memories from our 7 year long relationship and etc) and that I create my own reality with my thoughts (or continue to create the current by giving attention to his).

    Any suggestions on how to reply to this message? Should I, after feeling aligned with myself and thus love, just thank him, confirm the address and tell him to also let me know in case he would something from here (I am currently in another country) and that I hope he and his family are good too? (I sent them a Christmas and Happy New Year card which none of them said anything about or wished me back btw, but I try to remember that I did it out of unconditional love)

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    1. Hi Alice! This is a great question, and you very correctly predicted the answer. Open with a “Hi,” and say say yes to the address. Tell him thanks, that you’ll let him know if there’s anything else (he needs to send you) and that you hope he’s well, too. (Don’t mention the family – you had already wished them well over the holidays and this exchange isn’t about that.) This message projects positive energy of cooperation and satisfaction, which he won’t expect. And a positive exchange is always attractive. 😀
      (This is why, if you mention the family again, he’s going to think you’re thinking about it because he probably heard about your Xmas card. All of this will make you seem to be genuinely positive and well-wishing, and it’ll make him think.)


      1. Dear Nina, thank you for removing that comment! ❤
        Also, since this compliment was removed by that message, I’ll add it here again: Thank you Nina for providing me/us with confidence and making us substitute hoping with knowing! ❤
        Did you get a chance to read my message below? I'm asking again as I'm not sure if you've seen it or maybe it's too long to answer…
        I'm right now sitting and reading the wise answers you have given in the comments of this article: https://thelawofattractionandmylife.com/2014/08/19/manifesting-love-and-relationships-unscrambled/
        I'm sure these answers can apply to my situation as well, as even though the details might be unique the situations are more or less the same..


  2. Dear Nina, thank you for removing the comment above! ❤

    Did you get a chance to read my other message? I'm sry it's so long…


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