When You “Fail” to Manifest – A Guide to Starting Over!

What happens when you think your manifestation might arrive at a specific moment yet it doesn’t? You might have gotten signs or feedback that lead you to believe it was happening only to discover that it wasn’t what you hoped for, at least not just yet. 

We have all been there and if you look back, you will notice the exact patterns that caused this even to play out.

Your thoughts were probably engaged in worrying and trying to believe instead of deciding and knowing that what you want is yours. Belief causes questioning and knowing causes indefinite trust in the Universe.

You didn’t fail – the Universe simply reflects our awareness back to us and you believed, consciously or not, that what you received was possible. You didn’t believe that your ultimate desire was possible for you just yet.

We attract who we are and who we are is what we believe to be possible for us. And now, you will start over, decide your desire is a done deal and stick to that decision until it manifests.
A lack of belief means you have been feeling disconnected from yourself and there is no other meaning of the way things played out in this case. Maybe you feel like you’ve lost the self-confidence you once had and were used to having in the past. Maybe you believe that focusing on your desired reality is difficult so you stay away from it, following your conscious mind’s default settings instead. Whatever it is, you have neglected taking care of yourself, loving yourself and diving into your personal joys in favor of thinking about another person, life, circumstance or goal. You were ready to drop your (sense of) self in favor of your desire when this is the exact practice that prevents you from manifesting. And do you know why? Because you cannot find happiness in neglecting your own life. You have to be happy with your desire and be happy with yourself. The Universe is not against you nor is it telling you to give up – the Universe is merely a reflection of your own predominant feelings so you must change them to positive in order to proceed.

I know you are as impatient to see your manifestation as I am for the next season of Orange is the New Black. I binge watch it in anticipation. It gets you and it gets you hooked. I can’t get over the originality of writing, the skilled directing or the intensely powerful performances. Every season turns out to be even better than the last – I mean, who else agrees this show is beyond exceptional?! But so are you and your ability to manifest your desire. You must love and appreciate yourself because that is what lets you enjoy life. Life is simple – when we feel good, we attract the great! Self love provides life’s joys and if you cannot be happy in the process of getting your desire, either with your current reality or simply by knowing your desire belongs to you already (which also falls under current reality), you must ask yourself why.

One of the most common reasons is guilt and it is usually about the past. Did you make some choices in the past that still make you feel guilty which extends to feeling undeserving of your desire? Maybe something happened to you that you had never even considered probable and it shattered your sense of confidence. Whatever it was, the guilt is exactly what prevents you from feeling undeserving. Even if you attempt to believe but feel guilty all along, it will affect your manifestation, even if it does nothing but prolong its arrival. Guilt kills both belief and patience. Guilt prevents you from being happy in the now, and so does a lack of self love.

Focusing on your current reality as well as worrying about it prolongs the arrival of your desired one, regardless of the reason and of how difficult it might be for you to focus or believe right now.

And do you know why? Because you tend to believe that the looks of your past and your current reality absolutely must affect your ideal. You feel guilty, undeserving and fear or expect failure or even punishment.

Never connect your current reality to your ideal! No matter how you feel and what’s happening in your current reality, never connect it with your ideal by believing that the current influences the ideal in any way.

You can manifest everything you want regardless of where you are right now!

Just because things are the way they are right now does not mean that your current reality is not manifesting, not unless you believe it! Your current reality is only for now – believe it and it will be so.

You are only preventing yourself from attracting your ideal reality if you believe it’s impossible because of what your current reality looks like. Never make that mistake – the two are not connected!

Not ever.

There is a massive benefit to experiencing an incomplete, feared or “failed” manifestation – you have experienced it and survived. You have just proven to yourself that you have nothing to be afraid of! If you look at everything that happened, repeat to yourself it was all irrelevant for as long as it takes to believe it, see that you survived which showed things aren’t as bad as they seem and observe that you’re alive and well, you have just eliminated a massive fear in your life! You were afraid of manifesting the undesired but you survived it which makes it clear that it wasn’t as big of a deal as you thought – the truly big deals in life are a life in danger or something similar but not a single event that was nothing but a lesson. Nothing happened to you and you are still fine. We need to make a habit of deeming our problems/annoyances minuscule, as this removes the fear of them coming (back) into our lives. This is the time to be grateful for what you have instead of thinking about what you don’t (just yet). This is where gratitude comes in.

What you see as a problem today means nothing. It becomes meaningless tomorrow, when you declare it nothing. This problem is nothing – I can’t say this too many times! If you feel that someone else played a part in causing your problem, that person is nothing as well. Your negative thoughts that contributed to causing your problem are nothing. We need to learn to see it that way in order to prevent it from repeating. What we fear is what manifests and what we don’t care about stays away. So we need to stop fearing.

And that is the story of your temporary manifestation. Your desire is not lost forever – your belief simply needs to grow stronger. If you care enough, you will put in the effort of focus and belief. All it takes is just a tiny bit of realignment.

You did not fail.

My goal is for this to be a lifestyle blog, as Law of Attraction is a lifestyle! Why should you not have a lifestyle of living and experiencing everything you want? There is no reason not to! In addition, we lift each other up and support each other here, and we give all the help to anyone who asks for it.

We want everyone to be happy and attract their desires with magnetic positivity, beauty and ease.

Published by Nina Grdic

Life coach, writer, lifelong traveler, music lover and confidence/positivity/Law of Attraction expert.

8 thoughts on “When You “Fail” to Manifest – A Guide to Starting Over!

  1. Hi Nina

    it has not being easy to change many many years of feeling self doubt- fear – discouragement – negative thoughts. But enough is enough when I heard about LOA I made a decision to live a life I love. I think it all starts when we make a decision and choose to be-have-do anything we want.

    thank you again for this wonderful blog

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  2. Hi Nina

    I would like to share something that happened to me, I was feeling not too great the other day.
    I Intend to manifest a relationship with a specific person and I decided to talk about with my best friend, and he just went on and on talking negative and seeing how things are from his perspective and telling me how things should be. Well I felt worst but then little by little I started feeling something inside me growing stronger and stronger a very positive and loving feeling for myself for my friend who was on the phone for my specific person for my dream it was absolutely wonderful and even when my friend continued on I stopped listening and I saw that my new reality was mine. I believe that faith can be applied in every area of our lives and it seems that my friend does not believe it can be applied for relationships or to attract a specific person.
    However the good thing is that the next night I heard from him we saw each other even though he was super tired he made an effort to see me.

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    1. Hi Brook! Great story, thank you for telling it to us. I want to hear more about your lovely dates soon!


      1. you sure will Nina,

        I do have a question about flowing energy, I am aware now about how I feel when I am visualizing how ever sometimes I don’t “feel” even if I am in that state of mind when I can see clearly how I intend my life to be I don’t feel my energy flowing. I think I shouldn’t force to feel it so I let it go- I trust the universe-go about my day and then sometime later in the day ill try again, sometimes I feel it but just a little and sometimes I don’t will this slow down my dream from happening in my reality? what technic do you recommend so that I can always flow my energy? Because when I do I feel wonderful. Also I wonder how is it that I can trust the universe and yet not feel my energy all the time?


      2. Hi Brook! You will get there but don’t worry about doing it perfectly. Enjoy it as much as you can and soon, you will visualize easily and feel even better. Also, know that all your thoughts and feelings are valid just because they’re yours and you will soon start to see the difference between the relevant and the irrelevant ones.


  3. Zdravo Nina,
    Imam veliku blokadu kada je moja specifična osoba u pitanju jer ja smatram ako se rijetko viđamo da će on prosto zaboraviti za mene i da neću imati priliku da mu se približim. Nemam hrabrosti za taj prvi korak da ga zovnem da izađemo i ne znam kako da se riješim svoje blokade i “nevjerovanja”, a jako mi je stalo. Osjetim da zbog toga ne mogu da manifestujem ništa i čak sam počela da mislim da se sve više udaljavam od ostvarenja njega u svom životu. Možeš li mi objasniti šta se u stvari to dešava u meni? Imaš li neki savjet ili prijedlog kako da se ubijedim da moja želja već pripada meni i da nestane strah od toga da nikad neću dobiti priliku? Izvini na ovako dugačkom postu, ali očaj progovara.

    Hvala ti za sve na ovom blogu.

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    1. Dobar dan i puno hvala! 😀 Vidim da se brines o tome “kako” se to moze dogoditi kada nemate kontakt. Ali taj dio nije na nama – mi samo moramo znati da je sve gotova stvar i onda ce se okolnosti posloziti da se sve manifestira! Bez brige 😀


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