If You Love You, Do So Unconditionally!

This is one of the most important posts I have ever written.

I often stress the importance of directing feelings of love and appreciation towards oneself regardless of one’s current life circumstances, physical appearance, social or financial status. Some may think they need specific external validation in order to achieve their desired self-confidence, a notion entirely untrue.

Six years ago, I manifested weight loss of about 20 lbs. I thought it would make me as confident as I always wanted to be. However, I felt exactly the same and was shocked over that very fact. My awareness and with it, my self-confidence, never changed until I faced my limiting beliefs.

Every time I manifested a relationship I desired, I felt the same after I’d received it. I wasn’t permanently happier – I was only more excited. After the excitement wore off, I was the same person. Each time, I was expecting that the relationship would bring out an even better side of me, forgetting that I and I alone had the capability of doing so. My absolute best always rested in me, not in my relationship.

I’m only thirty years old and back then, I was in my mid twenties. I hadn’t learned everything I needed to just yet.

If you think your life circumstances, current job, physical appearance or financial status stand in the way of being the person you desire to be, this is the person you never were. An amazing person is amazing regardless of what is happening around them. Energy movement ensures that once you are capable of being the person you desire to be, you will manifest all your desires. You have to believe before receiving – the essence of LoA.

Directing feelings of love and happiness towards oneself expands one’s self-confidence, which is an essential element of effortless manifestation.

If you love who you are, never criticize yourself for your negative thoughts. Learn to love your appearance just as it is, knowing that you can change it whenever you want. If you hate your job, do you want to be the person who embraces the misery or one who changed their circumstances? Once you opt for the latter, use LoA. Decide that your dream job is yours now and never abandon that resolve. Every time you encounter a negative thought, simply replace it with a positive one.

You might think you would approach the person you love if you were more attractive or wealthier. You might think that these external attributes would offer you a needed confidence kick but in reality, they would only distract you from dealing with your deep-seeded issues.

And, you know it.

Being the person you desire to be requires strong resolve. 


When you feel like you’re drowning in your negative thoughts, say to yourself,

“My dream life is mine right now. Thank you.”

Your happiness and focus will change effortlessly. LoA is a way of living and your awareness will change as a result of evoking happiness within.


When you encounter an undesirable thought, say to yourself,

“I forgive myself for those thoughts. I am manifesting my dream life right now. My desires are a done deal.”

As soon as you say it, you will feel warmth around your heart. Your happiness will change your awareness and you will let your desire go effortlessly, allowing it to manifest.

Be happy forgiving yourself for your negative thoughts and be happy that your dream life belongs to you. Feeling this much happiness excludes all resistance, allowing you to allow your desires to come to you in the most natural flow imaginable. 


If you encounter an undesirable circumstance, say to yourself,

“I am grateful because there is an even better way for my desire to manifest than this would have been.”

Believe it and then, let it go.


The essence of your life lies in your love for the person you are. You are capable of effortlessly being everything you desire to be. Directing love towards yourself when you feel your best, your worst, your happiest, your most hopeless is going to take you there. 

Published by Nina Grdic

Life coach, writer, lifelong traveler, music lover and confidence/positivity/Law of Attraction expert.

2 thoughts on “If You Love You, Do So Unconditionally!

  1. Hey Nina! I want to let you know what all I’ve been doing and to see if I’m definitely on the right track still. As you know, I want to be back with my ex. Well, I’ve been highly influenced lately because I have friends who say we will get back together or we were meant to be and I never brought my ex up! So I dont worry or imagine the how it’s going to happen, I simply go to the end and see us the way I want us to be. I read on here earlier that you told someone “believe that you are the reason he is happier than anything else” and I do just that and it makes me feel good. I also just vividly imagine me laying on his chest and him giving me kisses on my forehead. I imagine him saying to me “you’re so beautiful baby” before giving me a kiss.

    The other desire I would want true is I want to manifest a lot of money. So I visualize myself in the apartment complex I wanna live in like I see myself mostly in my bedroom there so I see myself on my laptop on the bed a lot. I also tell myself “you are so lucky. You got … in your account!!” And I imagine myself buying things without a worry of money. Am I on the right track for both? Thank you sooooo much!!!

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    1. You are and I’m very impressed! Know that this is yours! Others telling you they expect you to get back together is a definite sign – a friend of mine I had once advised experienced that exact same thing!
      You’re also on the right track for money, as you’ve chosen to visualize something you love. If you know that this is yours and continue to love it, it’s all going to come together, fast.

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